Read/Reading: mostly books about mindful eating/weight loss

The End of Overeating by David Kessler – illuminating, informative, useful.

The Four Day Win by Martha Beck – love, love love this book. Columnist from Oprah’s magazine, I didn’t have high expectations but it is so well written, hilariously funny, compassionate, Buddhist-ish and right on.

One Bowl: A Guide to Eating for Body and Spirit by Don Gerrard – just bought this. Fascinating concept of eating all meals from one bowl. Mindful practice.

Mindful Eating: A Guide to Rediscovering a Healthy and Joyful Relationship with Food by Jan Chozen Bays – haven’t read it yet, but it looks like more good stuff..


didn’t I say “don’t ask” about this?🙂


Not so much. Some TV: The Biggest Loser, and In Treatment, which I am kind of addicted to. Ahh, Gabriel Byrne!

Memorable eats:

too much to really mention, but believe me I have been eating really clean, healthy, yummy and delicious stuff.


  • I ran my first 5k on May 3rd!! It was very exciting. I actually came in around the middle of the pack, both in my age group and overall, so I was really pleased. This after doing the awesome Couch-to-5k running program. Unbelievable, but IT REALLY WORKS. I’m doing another 5k on May 30th – want to join me?
  • Wrapped up another great season with Oakland Strokes crew team. Younger daughter’s boat took silver medal at the Southwest Regional Championships in Sacramento. GO STROKES!
  • My college girl returns from Wisconsin tonight! Yipppeeeeee!! I’ve really missed her.
  •  Many doctor visits. The bottom line is I’m doing great, even though I was diagnosed with diabetes in April. I’ve made great improvements in all areas including my blood lipids, glucose levels. I’ve lost 28 lbs since January!
  • I’m going to be doing a reading and two panels at the Mixed Roots Literary and Film Festival in Los Angeles in June. If you’re in the area, please come on down!
  • Getting very very busy in preparation for Pact Camp 2009, which is going to be awesome beyond awesome.
  • Just did a 4-day silent retreat at my beloved Santa Sabina. Which I very much needed.
  • Took an Intro to Meditation series of classes at the East Bay Meditation Center, which was incredibly wonderful. Will be doing an all-day class on love, this coming Saturday.  There’s never too much love!

My totally awesome sister-in-adoption, Lisa Marie Rollins, and the equally awesome organization she has founded, AFAAD, is holding its first conference! Soon!  First of its kind! This is a truly historic and important event. SPREAD THE WORD.

Announcing the 1st annual gathering of adoptees (transracial/international and same race) and foster care alums of African descent in Oakland, California, November 7-9, 2008.

AFAAD (Adopted and Fostered Adults of the African Diaspora) was formed specifically to support adopted and fostered people, to share our common and divergent experiences around race, adoption, joy, loss, family, search and reunion, and self identity and to celebrate our unique creativity, stories and community. AFAAD’s First Annual Gathering, Healing Ourselves, Making Connections is designed with you mind.

The purpose of this historic gathering will be to make connections, network, provide healing space, and to celebrate the diversity of our amazing diaspora of transracial, international, domestic adoptees and foster care alums. AFAAD uses “Black” in the widest diasporic sense, which includes African, African American, Afroasian and Afrolatino, bi-racial and multi heritage peoples. Healing Ourselves, Making Connections is the first of its kind for Black adoptees and foster adults and we know it will make a huge contribution to the conversations about adoption, race, social welfare and African diasporic identity – not to mention just bringing all of us together in one space is going to be amazing! It is time to share our stories with one another, rather than always teaching other people. We will also take some time for the strategic planning for the long-term goals of AFAAD as a social justice and community support organization.

When: November 7-9, 2008

AFAAD’s 2008 Gathering is being hosted by the lovely Washington Inn, at 495 10th Street, Oakland, CA  – a luxury boutique hotel ideally situated at the center of downtown.

Please see the website for more details about the Gathering schedule, call for sessions, hotel and registration information and more information about our mission, community and legislative advocacy work.

Close to all forms of public transportation. See for more information, or call 510.452.1776. Individuals visiting the Bay Area must make their own hotel reservations separately from AFAAD Gathering registration.

Contact Info:

AFAAD – Adopted and Fostered Adults of the African Diaspora

PO Box 24771, Oakland CA, 94607

Phone: 510.836.0133



I am a second year doctoral student in the Clinical Psychology program at Suffolk University in Boston, MA. I am doing a research project on “cultural transmission” in families with internationally adopted children. For this project, cultural transmission is defined as the ways in which parents discuss, participate in, and pass down culture to their (adopted) children.

I am looking for a diverse sample of parents who have adopted from any country other than America. There are no restrictions on country of origin, age at adoption, or any parental demographic factors. Participation should take no longer than 30 minutes and is comprised of filling out three short e-mailed surveys. Each person who returns the surveys will be entered into a drawing for the chance to win one of three $25 gift cards. Identities of participants will be carefully protected, and all answers are confidential.

The Internal Review Board at Suffolk University has approved this project. I can be reached by e-mail at or for more information.

Thank you,

Krystle Rivera, Ed.M.

Suffolk University

A complex look at international adoption from the folks at PointMade. Check out my rockin’ co-worker Beth Hall.

c1Sometimes I can be articulate. Sometimes I just can’t. Right now a lot of other people are expressing themselves better than I can. I’m just frothing at the mouth, writhing around, clawing at my eyes and wishing I could punch this woman, many times, right in the face.

I was going to write a whole long blog post about November being National Adoption Awareness Month, and how so much has been overwhelming me, both good and bad, but right now I can’t really focus on anything except this which has been the worst of it.

There’s been an ongoing series of blog posts about adoption in the New York Times, ranging from the sappy to the truly eloquent and poignant.

And then there was an absolute horror show of a post that made me shriek out loud in disgust, dismay, horror and distress.

Tana Janowitz, in her trademark sarcasm and f-you attitude that made her a once-famous author in the heyday of the late 80’s, writes:

A girlfriend who is now on the waiting list for a child from Ethiopia says that the talk of her adoption group is a recently published book in which many Midwestern Asian adoptees now entering their 30s and 40s complain bitterly about being treated as if they did not come from a different cultural background. They feel that this treatment was an attempt to blot out their differences, and because of this, they resent their adoptive parents.

So in a way it is kind of nice to know as a parent of a child, biological or otherwise – whatever you do is going to be wrong. Like I say to Willow: “Well, you know, if you were still in China you would be working in a factory for 14 hours a day with only limited bathroom breaks!”

And she says — as has been said by children since time immemorial — “So what, I don’t care. I would rather do that than be here anyway.”

Not surprising. That poor child would rather be ANYwhere than living with a mother like that (and a name like Willow?!?). Well, I can’t say anymore right now because I’m about to start spewing vitriol all over the keyboard, but I will link you to others who have expressed it better.

First, note Jae Ran’s documentation of the many adult adoptees whose posts in protest of Janowitz’s piece were not published censored by the NY Times. If this isn’t outrageous I don’t know what is. The thing that really got me, and made me feel like I can’t bear living in this country one more minute is the number of “Hey, lady, you are funny!” comments that she got. Oh, the shame. The SHAME.

Lisa Marie tries to educate Tama and others. More power to ya, teacher lady, but have you heard the story of the pearls and the swine?

Carmen at Racialicious has a really articulate commentary on the whole series.

I am really glad to see that adoptive mother Dawn spoke up, too. This whole thing is just so sick and outrageous.

AND: Breaking News! Twice the Rice has come out of retirement to comment on this as well.

I’m going to leave y’all on a bright note. Before sinking into utter despair, read Sumeia’s beautiful, true and poignant piece in the same series.

Edit: one of the editors of the above-mentioned “recently published book” responds, and brilliantly.

And Sarah Kim wrote an incredibly powerful and moving letter to Willow.

Finally, Harlow’s Monkey analyzes which comments were “allowed” on the NYT and which weren’t, and why.